We’re so pleased to have Jordan Davis dropping in today as a guest on author Z. Allora’s The Temple of Heaven blog tour. Jordan is talking real talk about sex, and there’s also a fantastic giveaway, so be sure to check out those details at the end.
Enjoy and good luck!
Greetings! Hi, my name is Jordon Davis. The Temple of Heaven tells my story. I’m stepping in for Z. Allora. Z. wanted to make sure I thanked The Novel Approach and their readers for the opportunity to hang out with you today, so THANK YOU!
It’s kind of cool, I guess Z. is celebrating the release of my book with a blog tour giveaway: 3 e-books of The Great Wall, 5 e-books of Finally Fallen and a $20 gift card to Dreamspinner Press. Details about the giveaway are below.
Sexual Sides and Blowing Yourself
(Jordon sits down and kicks his legs up onto the coffee table. He sighs then pulls his legs back and curls them under him.) You know a question I hate: are you a top or a bottom?
By the way, when your answer is NO the guys quickly disappear.
Let me explain. There’s a lot of pressure from society, porn, friends… your brothers—I have two older ones—everything and everyone paints an image in your mind about what sex is supposed to be. I meet a great guy, fall in love and apparently at that point I’m supposed to want to thrust my condom covered dick into him or have him poke his protected pecker into me. Seriously?
Argh! Can someone tell me why I should want that?
I get much of society still uses the Bill Clinton definition of sex and that somehow oral sex isn’t real sex. Handjobs, rimming, rubbing against each other… in other words, none of the things I think I’d find delicious—if I were ever given the chance—are considered by many not to be real sex.
Who decided the only validate sex is penis in hole?
I mean, I know lesbians aren’t down with that. My oldest brother’s friend Lisa would have something to say if anyone suggested what she and her wife have isn’t sex…. However, as a gay man I’m supposed to believe that anal is the only way?
And what really pisses me off is that… well, I guess I kind of do. I drank the Kool-Aid. In my head, I know not everyone wants that! I don’t want that—There I said it—but in my heart… I know not EVER wanting anal is a problem. It goes against norms… or what a lot of people believe are the norms.
Of course, I’ve never really told anybody how I feel about this… well, except for my friend Robin and my best friend Gwen. They take being sexually expressive to another dimension but who else would understand? It is supposed be in a male’s DNA to want to fuck, so what does that make me?
Oh, I know some of you would comfort me telling me I’ll grow out it or I just haven’t found the right guy, but that’s just not true… at least not for me.
You have to know I imagined anal sex a million times. I’ve watched a lot porn… like PhD level studies of porn. I’ve tried things… off page I’ve used dildos but I just don’t find anal sex erotic. It’s simply not for me. Hell, I even had Z. write me a princely deflowering but I realized that wasn’t who I was.
By now I bet some of you are saying to yourselves, “It’s no wonder why I never really had a boyfriend.” (Sigh) Maybe it’s not just that I have two overly protective older brothers…. but that’s an issue for another blog!
But I swear if I ever had a boyfriend I’d love kissing, cuddling, rubbing off together, slick handjobs, and (Jordon fans himself) oral sex. Oh wow… I mean blowjobs look just so— I could totally get behind sucking cock. Sucking lots and lots of cock and dare I suggest I’d love getting my cock wet in some beautiful man’s mouth… that’s just—
(Jordon leans toward you) You know what I find superhot?
A guy who can blow himself. (Jordon waves off disbelief with a flutter of his hands.) No, really! It’s a thing! I’ve seen it! Google selfsuck. Man, I could watch those videos all day. I imagine myself sharing someone’s cock with them. You know trading sucks back and forth and—sorry, I can get carried away.
Oh, um… I guess I should tell you about the giveaway. To enter leave Z. and me a comment about if you’ve ever heard of sexual sides before. Winners will be picked July 20th. (Leaving your email helps but isn’t necessary)
Z. is sending you many hugs through me.
Thanks for hanging with me,
Jordon Davis
About the Book
Music is Tian Di’s life and his love, and he’s made plenty of sacrifices. His career is finally taking off with his band, Made in China, and he’ll continue to put music first… until he meets Jordon. Then insta- lust becomes insta-love and a commitment to the future—no matter how difficult it might be.
Jordon lives in a bubble constructed by his overprotective older brothers, who are so controlling that they’ve kept him from dating. A talented artist, Jordon managed to keep his success with a Japanese manga publisher a secret from his family, but now he fears discovery. It’s easier to let his brothers handle everything, but Jordon has reached his limit. He’s ready to draw some boundaries so he can be his own man and face all the challenges that come with that.
Their families and careers aren’t the only obstacles. Jordon must accept his identity as a gay man who doesn’t top or bottom. Fortunately, Tian Di—and his special talents—help Jordon open up to his sexuality in an erotic adventure that spans Japan and China, and with love, luck, hard work, and open minds, will end in a happily ever after.
About the Author
Z. Allora believes in happily ever afters for everyone. She met her own true love through the personals and has traveled to over thirty countries with him. She’s lived in Singapore, Israel and China. Now back home to the USA she’s an active member of PFLAG and a strong supporter of those on the rainbow in her community. She wants to promote understanding and acceptance through her actions and words. Writing rainbow romance allows her the opportunity to open hearts and change minds.
To contact Z. Allora: E-mail || Facebook || Blog || Website || Twitter || Dreamspinner Press
I LOVED this interview!
I haven’t heard of sexual sides. I’m going to have to google it. As one who isn’t thrilled at receiving anal (supposedly I’m a bottom) the other stuff is more to my liking!!
Congratulations on your new release!!
Hugs
Jordon’s awesome. He’s been with my for 8 years (I’m looking forward to seeing how having his book out changes him.) Thank you for sharing. Last weekend on my wall I posted an article that came out called the Gay Myth discussing this very thing. (Lots of people aren’t into intercourse and that’s okay > our bodies are lovely in that they provide us with many opportunities to be creative.)
Big hugs, Z.
Happy Claps I love Jordon. I have loved him since book on of Dark Angels he’s such an amazing characters and I couldn’t agree more. I think as broad as peoples minds are these days that they should try expanding that in the arena of sex because some people just aren’t into it but still crave the intimacy. I lost my partner of 13 years and I do not miss the “sex” but I do miss the hugs and cuddles and all the other stuff. Listening to their heartbeat against my ear as I fall asleep..you know that kinda thing. So Kuddo’s for owning it babyboy! Cuz real sex isn’t just physical penetration..sometimes it’s mental and emotional too. Thanks for listening to me go on and on..LOL..Hugs to all my fellow pretties
Thank you for sharing sweetness. I think as we’re able to share who we are people find validation in themselves. (Jordon adored being called babyboy BTW… he totally gave you a big hug.) Hugs, Z.
Aww that totally made my day :)
OMG, Jordon . . . my mind is racing and my blood is flowing. Sharing a selfsuck experience with someone, trading sucks back and forth? I have no idea how I’ll get that image out of my mind (or if I even want to). I may never be able wear these panties again!
Okay Ms. Adorable you made me giggle & smile (psst, there’s definitely a scene in the book… that required me to take many breaks LOL just saying). Big hugs, Z.
Congrats and thanks for the fun post. I have herd of sexual sides, just hadn’t heard it labeled that. But it’s all cool. – Purple Reader, TheWrote [at] aol [dot] com
Awesome. Thank you for sharing. Big hugs, Z.
This is a very interesting post! And you’re right that as a society, if there’s not penetration, we don’t consider it sex. We live in a time where there are many different forms of love and sexual gratification, we only need to be more open about it. It’s like when I heard someone (either was an author or a reader) that said that bottoms or tops “didn’t exist” because “everyone” liked to do both. It was really annoying. People like different things and just understanding that, we would be more happy (and less preoccupied with each other’s life).
Love this… YES! People are unique. Our experiences are different and that’s okay. Just because your isn’t like someone else’s doesn’t make it any less valid. Big hugs, Z.
I’ve never heard the title for it, but I’ve definitely heard of the likes and dislikes, to be honest I think I’d be most happy being a side. Congratulations on getting your book Jordan.
Thank you for sharing and the congrats. Big hugs, Z.
I just got my copy!
Hooray! I hope you enjoy it Big Hugs, Z.
Yes, I have heard the term ‘side’ before and it was good to find a word that describes my BF. He’s probably between asexual and side, but it works for us. And even though I love porn and the idea of sex, it is not something I am missing, especially as daily cuddles and kisses feel so much better to me. For me it has to do with the person I fell for. I am happy to not have sex if it is not interesting to my current partner and am happy to be monogamous, since that is what he prefers. Still that does not mean that if I had fallen for one (or more) other people, I would not be happy in a monogamous or polyamerous relationship with them, weather (very) sexual or not. There are so many things some people like or dislike, it is nice to be able to openly talk about it. Thank you! And congrats about the new release <3
Thank you for providing safe spaces to discuss, and thank you for sharing a little of your world and thoughts with us. Many hugs, Z.
This would be my first graphic novel so I’m really interested in how the men are portrayed…beyond my imagination!
When you say graphic novel > you mean detail specific or drawn pics like a manga…. It’s not a manga… I only pray to the Gods Of Yaoi for an opportunity to see my work as drawn. You can check out my website there’s a free novella called Yaoified Love. Hugs, Z.
I’ve heard of it but never described in those terms. Thank you for the interesting post.
Jordon bows. “You’re welcome.”
Z. sends you hugs.
I had not heard of the term “side” before but it makes perfect sense to me! What a refreshing take on sex…I can’t wait to read Jordan’s story!
I hope you enjoy Jordon’s story. Big hugs, Z.
Great interview and this book sounds amazing!
Thanks! I’m excited to share Jordon’s story. Hugs, Z.
I loved the interview. I must recognise I had not heard about sexual sides before, I have just googled it. You have given me something to think about!
As someone living in Eastern culture, then realizing that she is an asexual aromantic, NOPE, I haven’t heard sexual sides before!